BOOK review FOR new PARENTS: THE wonder WEEKS

When we posted a list of 9 books for new mothers and dads, I left out a book recommended by new jersey reader Rebecca Cain, The wonder Weeks because I had never heard of it and wanted to learn more. I asked Rebecca to tell me much more about the book and she’s done us all the favor of offering a terrific summary. Here’s what she said:

In my previous corporate life, I thrived on calendars and schedules, project plans and milestone-delineated goals. I thought parenting would have at least some similarities ”“read the how-to, lay out the timeline, execute, goal achieved. (You’re laughing derisively now, as you ought to be.) because my spouse frequently travels internationally for work, for weeks at a time, I outsourced much of our prenatal reading to him because he’d otherwise be having a hard time to decipher foreign language newscasts. He was terrific at summarizing the 5 things that we absolutely should do ”“or avoid doing ”“ to guarantee our impeding addition would be happy, healthy, sleeping, performing calculus in her head, etc. Only, our kid rarely fit the descriptions we’d crib-noted, or her temperament just didn’t lend itself to their prescriptions. A few weeks in, I understood the roller coaster called “newborn” I’d just boarded didn’t include a calendar function.

I wish instead I’d had my spouse read The wonder Weeks: how to stimulate your baby’s mental development and help him turn his 10 predictable, great, fussy phases into wonderful leaps forward, as I believe that armed with the insight of this piece I would have been much more confident as a new parent, and much more curious, rather than anxious, about how my new baby was experiencing the world. And, I would have had one of those project plans (at least in broad clean strokes) I used to love so much when life could be cleanly displayed in Excel (wistful sigh).

Based on 35 years of research by Dutch husband-and-wife academic team Hetty van de Rijt and Frans Plooij, The wonder Weeks provides age-based baby behavior insight focused on 10 distinct developmental “leaps” from birth through 20 months. In addition to laying out when (as in, which weeks, by gestational age) you can expect your baby to be many difficult, they also present diary entries from 15 families at each leap, and offer optimism that the “wonder week” will end with positive growth for your child. quite frankly, it’s the closest thing to a crystal-ball-for-parents I’ve seen.

A mother with a slightly older baby suggested The wonder Weeks book to me when I was at my wit’s end with a clingy, crying, non-sleeping, 8-week-old, wondering if my previously beautiful baby had undergone a complete personality change. “Oh, that’s a wonder Week, she said, practically off-handedly. “There’s another one soon. get the book, there’s a calendar.”

Ein Kalender?!

Skeptical of the book’s predictive power, so I first registered for the totally free alarm service, which promised to alert me by email to the next leap a few days before it ought to commence. A few weeks later I received my first alert; two days after that she was well into the next leap, with its associated clinginess, crying, and crankiness (the “three C’s”).

Convinced, I purchased the app ($1.99 for iOS and Android) and the full e-book ($12.99 on your iOS device). You can also purchase individual chapters for only the ages you want; because the wonder Weeks are timed according to a baby’s due date rather than birth date, I’ve found the timer and the app really valuable too, because they do the math for me.

According to the authors:

we found that, surprisingly, all normal, healthy babies are much more tearful, troublesome, demanding, and fussy at the same ages ”¦ From our research, we are now able to predict, practically to the week, when parents can expect their babies to go through of these ”˜fussy phases.’”¦During these periods, a baby cries for a good reason ”¦ [this] is a book on how to understand and cope with your baby when he is challenging and how to delight in him many as he grows.

In addition to plotting out when you can much more or less expect Junior to be much more challenging than usual, in each chapter van de Rijt and Plooij outline the behavioral signals of the upcoming leap, and the new abilities your baby will start to exhibit afterwards. They also offer ideas on how to engage these particular emerging abilities, so that playtime helps baby make better sense out of what’s going on in his brain. To help you later remember these blurry but stunning times, the book offers a diary for you to record your own child’s progress through the leaps. Overall, they present a joyful and upbeat method to understanding your baby, with little of the “heed us or else” tone I’ve discovered in numerous other parenting books.

Beyond the peek into the future and the modicum of forward-planning it affords my otherwise anything-can-happen-with-a-baby life, I appreciate the positive sPräparat und „Licht am Ende des Tunnels“ Die Wonder Weeks sorgt für jeden der Sprünge. Sie haben das Gefühl, dass die Autoren tatsächlich nach Ihnen und Ihrem Baby Ausschau halten, und möchten wirklich nur, dass Sie beide die glücklichste Erfahrung haben, die Sie können. Wenn ich die „Sprungwarnung“ erhalte, erinnere ich mich daran, viel geduldiger und viel verständnisvoller zu sein, dass meine Tochter eine verwirrende Zeit durchläuft und deshalb weint/launisch/anhänglich “und vor allem, was es gewonnen hat. t Den ewig dauern. Der Kalender sagt es.

Sie finden eine hartnäckige Kopie der Wonder Weeks bei Amazon (einfacher zu teilen mit Ihrem Partner), einer Kindle-Version (halbe Preis) oder einzelne Kapitel auf der Website der Autoren.